From another Christian POV, resolutions can be useful: Because we break them so quickly, they can create a spiritual frustration that drives us into the arms of God.
And resolutions can remind us to be gentle with ourselves. We are all "works in progress."
Several comforting insights came from the Prayer Book's January 2nd Morning Lessons:
Psalm 34:4-7 reminds us that all the ugly crud in our lives cannot separate us from God's favor:
I sought the LORD, and he answered me *and delivered me out of all my terror.
Look upon him and be radiant, *and let not your faces be ashamed.
I called in my affliction and the LORD heard me *and saved me from all my troubles.
The angel of the LORD encompasses those who fear him, *and he will deliver them.
Genesis 12:1-7 and Hebrews 11:1-12 teach us that folks who journey without all the answers and outcomes are the heroes of faith. Jesus blesses those who "hunger and thirst for righteousness," not those who think they're already there.
Jesus himself was misunderstood and resented. Others' attitudes and behaviors are not necessarily the measure of our worth in God's eyes.
But my favorite message this morning was in Canticle 10, which is drawn from Isaiah 55 in the Bible:
For as rain and snow fall from the heavens *and return not again, but water the earth, Bringing forth life and giving growth, *seed for sowing and bread for eating,
So is my word that goes forth from my mouth; *it will not return to me empty;
But it will accomplish that which I have purposed, *and prosper in that for which I sent it.
Looking out my window as I pray, I see everything covered with snow. That cold stuff will give life and beauty to all the hidden things that will come to life in the Spring. It has a purpose, even though it just seems cold and dead at the moment.
God's word is active in the resolutions you are breaking right now. He's looking for a thaw in your cold places. He's looking for his Word, Jesus Christ, to seep in and bring you fuller life, greater joy and more perfect peace than you've imagined.
Your life is God's purpose. So drop those self-driven resolutions and invite Him to make the changes you need.