The child in the manger vs. "spiritual, not religious," and similar forms of self-focus

"To be certain, if they refuse to accept a position of spiritual leadership when they are called, they forfeit the majority of their gifts - gifts which they received not for themselves only, but also for others... he who abounds in virtues but refuses to feed the flock of God is found guilty of having no love for the supreme Shepherd...

For indeed, what is the disposition of mind when one could be distinguished by assisting his neighbors but prefers his own stillness to the assistance of others when, in fact, the only-begotten of the supreme Father came forth from the bosom of the Father into our midst so that he might benefit the many?" Gregory the Great, The Book of Pastoral Rule 1:5